Being a parent is a blessing. Parenting comes with lots of responsibilities, bringing a child into this world though and the responsibility of shaping them into who they will be is also one of the hardest things you can ever do. Parenting is an endless task in which we experience happy, sad, funny moments.
Early years of a child and parent life are very crucial and a parent has to deal with their tantrums and meltdowns. Some toddlers are very calm in nature but many of them throw tantrums to their parents.
When it comes to tantrums, your child is definitely not the only one to ever have them. Tantrums are extremely common and part and parcel of your child’s development.
When does a child start tantrums:
Tantrums usually start when children are around 18 months old and happen between the ages of one to three. They are equally common in boys and girls. As a child grows, they gain independence and self-confidence. They start doing little tasks themselves, at this moment when we interrupt or stop them, they are disappointed, frustrated, they think they don’t have freedom and they start throwing tantrums. There may be other reasons like the child might be ignored, tired, hungry or worried.
How to deal with tantrums:
When a child has a tantrum, they might start complaining, crying, screaming and yelling. In some cases, kicking, hitting and the child holding their breath.
Actually though, this is the time when your child needs you the most. So, try to support them by trying the following.
1. Trying to understand why they’re having a tantrum
Are they tired? Hungry? Jealous of another child that has your attention? If you understand where it’s coming from, it might be a bit easier to calm them down.
2. Distracting them
Children have very short attention span. So, try distracting them. Take them to another place or room and change the environment. Make yourself sound very surprised and interested to get to your child’s attention.
3. Don’t agree
If you say yes to end the tantrum, your child will think that’s the best way to have what they want. Don’t bribe them with sweets or treats. Otherwise, it will encourage their bad behaviour.
4. Don’t panic
If you get stressed, your child will also pick up on it so keep calm and in control and you’ll chill them out too.
5. Handle tantrums based on your child’s needs
Look into the cause, so that you can take an informed decision about handling the matter.
About the Author
Mrs Anu Malhotra is a post graduate in computer science. She has been very active in the field of Education. Her calm personality and dollops of patience has helped in development of personality of children in these early years. She is a team worker; her effective verbal and vocational skills help in complete personality development of children. Follow her for more blogs on parenting and nutrition on www.aloemaa.com